Auntyji

Do you have a question in mind that you're reluctant to ask? Love Matter's sexual expert Auntyji is here to answer all your questions.

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Why is my girlfriend faking orgasms?

Q: I found out my girlfriend has been faking orgasms. She’s great in bed, never complains, says she loves me. But I heard that most women's vaginas contract during orgasm – and hers doesn't. How can I fix the problem? Amaresh, Puri

She won’t have sex – should I end it?

Q: My girlfriend won’t have sex with me. We’ve been dating for a year, first in high school, now together in Delhi for college. She says she loves me, but it’s really frustrating. Would it be wrong to end the relationship? Ajit, Rourkela

I have sex but still masturbate – is that normal?

Q: Is it strange that I masturbate even though I have sex with my girlfriend? We've been together for six months and we’ve had sex from the start. But even after having sex with her, I’ve masturbated a few times. Is that abnormal? Shams, Phagwara

Will my husband think I'm too keen on sex?

I am 32 and I think about sex now more than ever before. Will my husband find it weird if I tell him about this? I have heard that a woman's sex drive is at its peak when she hits 30 – is this true? What will happen after this? Kieran, Kolkata

How can I increase my breast size?

I am unhappy about my small breasts. Can I do something to increase my boob size? I know that boys in my college make fun of me because I’m flat-chested. I feel very embarrassed. Shalini, 16, Kunnur
 

Will I get addicted to a vibrator?

If I use a vibrator, will I get addicted and not be able to have orgasms the normal way? I want to buy one for myself but I'm not sure. What will my husband think if he gets to know I have been using a vibrator to have orgasms? Namrata, Mumbai

My bi boyfriend might marry – should I leave him?

I'm gay and my boyfriend is bisexual. He thinks he "might" marry a girl if his mom pressures him. We've been together for three years now. He still can't commit. Should I stay with him or break up with him now? Ankush, Bangalore

Women's wet dreams: is that normal?

Q: I'm 33 and I regularly have wet dreams. The nights I have wet dreams I am more aroused the following day. I am happily married, but I seem to orgasm a lot easier in a wet dream than with my husband. Should I be worried? Sharmila, New Delhi

Can I visit a sex-worker for my physical needs?

Is it right to go to a sex worker to enjoy sex? I know that such an act involves lots of risks. But if I use a condom, am I safe? Diwakar, Cochin

Can gays turn straight?

If a gay person decides to become straight, can he be successful? After trying various sex acts with different females, he could first become bisexual then slowly turn heterosexual. At least some if not all gays would be cured. Sumit, Gurgaon

I come when we kiss – what should I do?

When I make out with my girlfriend, I end up ejaculating. What can I do about it? I'm 22 years old, and I'm not interested in having sex until I'm married. Our making out doesn't really involve anything sexual, mostly just kissing. Karan, 18, Mumbai

Should I end my long-distance love?

My boyfriend moved to another city for a job three months ago – should I stay in a long-distance relationship? We’ve been dating for almost a year. But now it feels like he’s putting his job, friends and family before me. Preeti, Surat