Auntyji

Do you have a question in mind that you're reluctant to ask? Love Matter's sexual expert Auntyji is here to answer all your questions.

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Should I try sex with an older woman?

My friends have been asking me to try sex with an older woman. Should I take their advice? I am 22 and have always had partners my age or younger. I don't fancy older women, but my friends say I'd learn from the experience. Sanjay, Bangalore

She smells bad – should I dump her?

My girlfriend hates to shower. She smells bad, really bad. Sometimes she doesn't shower for as many as three days. I don't like getting intimate because she's so messy. Now she's upset and says I'm avoiding her. I'm really confused, Auntyji. Please help me. Virat (24), DelhiThis is becoming a big problem in our relationship – I wonder if I should break up with her. Virat (24), Delhi

Should I keep comforting my ex?

Q: Auntyji, I broke up with my boyfriend about five months ago but we still spend a lot of time together, mainly helping him get over our relationship. He feels lonely if I exclude him from my plans.

Should I sleep with my neighbourhood bhaabhi?

Auntyji, there is a bhabhi in my neighbourhood. She's about 40 or so. I'm really attracted to her. She asked me to come over to her place. I think she wants me to enter into some kind of relationship with her. She even asked if I had a girlfriend. She's very gorgeous and great company. Should I go ahead? Help! Vikram (24), Ludhiana

Should I send him nude pictures of me

Q: My boyfriend is out of the country for work. He wants me to send him nude pictures of me. He says he misses me and wants to be with me in any way possible, so this request.

Should I have phone sex with my ex?

Auntyji, my boyfriend broke up with me a few months ago but he calls every now and then and has phone sex with me. He says he doesn't love me anymore but I still love him and want him back. I am wondering if he is confused or if he's just after sex. Please clarify this for me, I keep thinking about him all the time. Nisha (22), Pune

Should I have sex with my boyfriend?

Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for six months. Since a few days, we've been talking about having sex. We really want to do it, but I don't know how to have sex and I'm also scared of getting pregnant.

Am I turning lesbian?

Q: Auntyji, I am a straight girl – or so I thought. But these days I really like the company of girls more than boys. I recently met a girl I really like. We talk all the time, even about other girls – about how sweet or sexy they are.

I'm attracted to older men – is that ok?

Q: I'm attracted to men who are about 10 years older than me. Whenever I try to date someone my age I find them too eager or boring. My present boyfriend is 12 years older than me. Am I a pervert to be attracted to older men? Sabiha (21), Coimbatore

Why doesn't he kiss me anymore?

Q: My husband and I have been married three years – it was a love marriage. We still have sex regularly, but he doesn't kiss me or look at me during sex. What’s wrong? Does he still love me? What do I do? Suhani (27), Ranchi

Why is she so quiet when we have sex?

Q: Auntyji, when I perform oral sex on my girlfriend, or when we have intercourse, she doesn't make any sounds at all. I can feel from the way she moves that she enjoys it, but it does worry me that she doesn't make a sound. Sidhant, Meerut

Dumped after one-night stand - help me get over it!

Q: Dear Auntyji, last week I had a one-night stand and the boy doesn’t want to stay in touch. I now feel unattractive and worthless. I feel as though I am not wanted any more. It's terrible. How can I get over this depression? Sanjana, Pune